A few years ago, I learned something about blogging. Write something that brings value to people, and people will read what you write. You have to be consistent about bringing value, or you go into the flakey area of readership. Creating content that is worth reading is not easy to do. In fact, it takes time and effort to create something that can add value to someone else’s life. It takes more time and effort to do this consistently. If you have read my blog, then you have noticed that I’ve been very inconsistent in what I’ve shared over the past two years. A year and a half ago, I relaunched my blog. After that, I only posted three or four times the rest of that year. I was in a desert place, and didn’t have a lot to say at that point. Inconsistency does not help you bring value to people’s lives. This is a principle that is true both in blogging and in everyday life.
I don’t know if you know this, but you have the opportunity to bring value to the people you know. You have the chance to enrich other people’s lives. You have the time to influence others to help them become their best selves. You have the capacity and capability to bring far more value than you would imagine.
Here are a few keys I’ve found important to bringing value to people.
1. Take Time To Reflect. When I take time to reflect, I am a more centered person. This allows me to share from a healthy place as opposed to a reaching place. I can be vulnerable without being needy. I can share who I am, because I am reflecting on who I am. I can share lessons I learn, because I reflect on what I’ve learned. It is difficult to take time to reflect, but this will help you bring more value to others.
2. Become A Listener. This is something that I continue to struggle with, but I have spent more time working on this year. I do my best to listen to people around me. Like I said, I am not a “natural listener”, but I find that people have a lot of worthwhile insight to share if I take the time to listen. One place this has proven valuable is at work. One of my friends, Banderas, is always finding worthwhile information to share with our team He is a student of technology, and knows the little things that I don’t know about. If I am too busy to learn from him, then I am reducing what I know and the value I can bring.
3. Fearlessly Ask Questions. At work, I am in way over my head. Even after a year of work, I’m amazed by what I don’t know. Because of this, I ask questions all the time. If you ask my senior co-workers who asks more questions than anyone else, they would say I do. At first, I felt dumb asking questions all the time. Then, I decided to ask questions without even saying, “I know this is a dumb question” or “I’m sorry to bother you.” Now, I just ask questions. The more questions I ask, the more I know. The more I know, the better I am at sharing from a place of expertise or wisdom.
4. Be An Encourager. Did you know it takes very little time to write somebody a note? Did you know it doesn’t cost a lot of money to buy somebody a gallon of ice cream. Bob Goff talks about this in “Love Does” which is recommend reading by me to anybody. Finding the good in people brings a lot more value than telling them what is wrong about them. Besides, who wants to listen to negativity? There is a lot of good around you if you will open your eyes to see it. Assume positive intent with people, and let them know what is good about them.
5. Be Uniquely You. I will repeat myself. You have the capacity and capability to bring far more value than you would imagine. Being uniquely you will happen more as you let the good things inside of you come out. You have more to share than you think. You are more creative than you give yourself credit for. You have more brilliance than you would expect. You are more beautiful than you know. You can accept yourself, and be uniquely you.
If you’re going to bring the value, do it as yourself. Don’t try to be anyone else. Enjoy living with a heart open, a mind open, and excited to bring value to what you do everyday. Be consistent with this. You bring the value.