The Secret Power of Ordinary

I spent much of my life thus far avoiding routine. Growing up, I viewed routine as the opposite of enjoyment. The house I grew up in was a place of routine, and I tried to imagine my way out of it. Well, except for the daily times that held routine Breakfast of cereal, routine lunch of sandwiches and leftovers, and routine dinner of routine choices. I never willingly missed a meal growing up. My parents had a rule when I was little that we were allowed thirty minutes of TV per day. Eventually, that evolved to a whole hour. If my sisters and I were inside, we were reading (well they were reading and I was trying to get them come and play outside with me), or were doing chores, or we were outside. 

One time during college, Mom, Jessica and Tricia invited me to go to Panera with them on a Saturday morning. Within 5 minutes, I wondered why I was there. They weren’t talking about anything that was overly funny, world changing, or philosophical. They were talking about the details of what they were doing each day, and I distinctly remember feeling confused. How could anyone remember this much detail of what they had done and where they had been while doing those things. After that, I didn’t go to Panera with them anymore. 
Which takes me back to the part I was sharing before. When I say I resisted routine, I have another way of saying this:

I didn’t like the idea of being ordinary. 

To me, ordinary was a waste of time. I wanted a story that was bigger than that. I wanted to feel like my life was taking on more effect than just being “ordinary” as I did “routine” things. 

In February of 2016, I moved up to Boise. I went to spend time with my Mom. She was still in good enough health that she walked 2-3 miles a day a year into stage 4 cancer. Within three weeks of being there, Mom was in a wheelchair. 

Every day, I would cook breakfast, and then I would transfer her from her wheelchair to a new seat in the room, back to her wheelchair, and then to another seat. A few years before this, I had traveled to 7 countries in Africa, and climbed Kilimanjaro. Now, I was in the house helping take care of a sick parent. 
Something happened while I was there I never expected. I began to love routine. There wasn’t a rush to do many things, and in the lack of rush, things slowed down. 

Sometimes it felt like we were in a continuum, and I didn’t know when this world would change. It was maddening to see my Mom grow weaker and weaker with time. I could talk about the other challenges that happened while there, but sometime during it I came to understand the power of ordinary. 

As much as I may like to talk and feel deep, stand on mountains, and attempt to swim oceans, I found that there is nothing to begrudge about the ordinary. That’s where we live most of our lives. 
This is for every person who sees the incredible life someone else is living on social media, and says, “I wish that was me.” This is for every man turning a wrench, and for every woman changing a diaper. Or maybe it’s a woman turning a wrench, and a man changing a diaper. There is nothing glorious about the ordinary, routine moments of life except for everything about this ordinary, routine life. 

The past week, life has been slowing down around me, like the end of an episode of LOST when the music starts and the camera pans slowly across each character’s face. It is like life has slowed down, and I’ve started seeing people again. I stopped rushing through every moment, and I’m enjoying the opportunity to linger in the present moment. Where are we rushing off to anyway? 

When I’m eating with friends, I see the expressions of concern, joy, outrage, and confusion on their faces, and I love them more than I did before. I love them because I’m learning to look, and it’s not from the top of a mountain I’m seeing these views. The love is in these everyday, ordinary moments of life. This is where the power is, because this is where the love is, if we can only stop to see, experience, and accept that maybe the powerful didn’t only happen while we were on top of a mountain. It happened while we were washing dishes, writing letters, sipping a cup of coffee, crying in our loss, and laughing with our friends. The secret power of ordinary is that your life is not ordinary. The routine, ordinary moments are this life we have. There is nothing ordinary about being alive. 

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3 thoughts on “The Secret Power of Ordinary

  1. The context of this blog is wonderful. Retirement brought for me what you have found. I am happy you have discovered this early enough to truly enjoy it. I wish I had. Keep on being ordinary. Greatness comes from that and you may not notice when it arrives.

  2. Dear brother, Greetings to you in the name of lord jesus christ. brother,here i am doing of god’s work was done very well by the god’s grace.we are live in coastal area.i want to interest to do god’s work with you.please come and visit our congregation and do here good god’s work.we are praying for your work and their congregation.please pray for my work and here the congregation. convey my best wishes to you and their congregation. In christ, vijaykumar preacher

    On Tue, May 23, 2017 at 12:36 AM, David Skidmore wrote:

    > David Skidmore posted: “I spent much of my life thus far avoiding routine. > Growing up, I viewed routine as the opposite of enjoyment. The house I grew > up in was a place of routine, and I tried to imagine my way out of it. > Well, except for the daily times that held routine Breakf” >

  3. Dear Brother David *preacher* *,*

    Greetings to you in the name of lord jesus christ. Here uppugundur and surroundings i am doing of god’s work is going very well brother. we are safe here and hope same with you.we are also praying for your family and your good health.

    On 3rd May 2017, we have been conducting Bible class at Uppugundur church of christ. That meeting was done very well by the god’s grace.At this time I teach the topic is *CHRISTIAN GROWTH.(2 peter 1:5-7)*

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    On 6th May 2017, we have been conducted special meeting at Indira colony church of christ.That meeting was done very successfully by god’s glory.At this time I teach the topic is *THE DEITY OF JESUS CHRIST.(colossians 2:8-10)*

    On 7th May 2017,we have been conducting worship at uppugundur church of Christ.That the worship was done very well by the god’s grace.

    I teach the topic is *HIM WHO IS BEGOTTEN OF HIM.(1John 1:1-5).* The worship day totally 38 members are attended that worship.In that 33members are joining with us into lord’s supper. And totally the Sunday contribution is 250 rupees.

    On9th May 2017, we have been conducted a thanks giving meeting at our congregation member house. That meeting was done very well.At this time I teach the topic is *THE GOSPEL OF THE KINGDOM.(matt 24:14)*

    On 11th May 2017, we have been conducting birthday meeting at pothavaram church of Christ.That the meeting was done very well by the god’s grace. I teach the topic is *GOD IS LOVE.(Romans 5:8)*

    On 13th May 2017, we have been conducted a special meeting at uppugundur church of christ. That meeting was also done very well.At this time I teach the topic is *MIRACLES OF PETER*.(Acts 3:1-8)*.*

    On 14th May 2017, we have been conducting worship at our congregation.That meeting was done very well by god’s glory.At this time I teach the topic is *THE WORTH OF GOD.(Romans 1:18)*

    The worship day totally 35members are attended that worship.In that 30members are joining with us into lord’s supper.And totally the Sunday contribution is 220 rupees.

    On 15th&16th May 2017, we have been conducting Gospel meetings at Pedaganjam church of Christ.That meetings also done very well by the god’s grace.The topic is *TRUE WORSHIP. *

    On 19th MAY 2017, we have been conducted thanks giving prayer at Machavaram church of christ.That meeting also done very well by the god’s grace.At this time I teach the topic is *TO WHAT ARE WE CALLED?(1Peter 2:9)*

    On 21st May 2017, we have been conducting worship at uppugundur church of Christ.That the worship was done very well by the god’s grace.

    I teach the topic is *GOD THE FATHER IS LORD. *The worship day totally 40 members are attended that worship.In that 35members are joining with us into lord’s supper.And totally the Sunday contribution is 280 rupees.

    On 23rd May 2017, me and our congregation members are visited Hindu families near to our congregation. please pray for them to believe our lord.

    On 25th &26th May 2017, we have been conducting Gospel meetings at machavaram church of Christ.That the meetings are done very well by the god’s grace.

    I teach the topic is *SPRIT OF TRUTH.(John 14:17) *

    On 28th May 2017, , we have been conducting worship at uppugundur church of Christ.That the worship was done very well by the god’s grace.

    I teach the topic is *THE REWARD OF THE FAITHFUL.(Lk 19:17) *The worship day totally 38 members are attended that worship.In that 30members are joining with us into lord’s supper.And totally the Sunday contribution is 250 rupees.

    On 30th MAY 2017, we have been conducted thanks giving prayer at Rachapudi church of christ.That meeting also done very well by the god’s grace.At this time I teach the topic is *GOD IS MERCIFUL.(Deut 4:31)*

    Every wednusday bible class and saturday we have been conducted special meeting at our congregation. so,please pray for my doing of god’s work.

    Dear brother,Here uppugundur and surroundings I am doing of god’s work was done very well by the god’s grace.We are depending our god’s work only brother.We re waiting for your cooperation to do here our god’s work.we are daily praying for your work and their congregation.And also we are praying for your thinkings and plannings are done by the god’s grace.please pray for my work and here congregation.

    In christ,

    Usurupati vijaykumar preacher,

    Uppugundur church of christ,

    Naguluppalapadu mandal,

    Prakasam district, 523186

    Andhrapradesh,

    South india.

    On Sun, May 28, 2017 at 10:40 PM, usurupati vijaykumar wrote:

    > Dear brother, Greetings to you in the name of lord jesus christ. > brother,here i am doing of god’s work was done very well by the god’s > grace.we are live in coastal area.i want to interest to do god’s work with > you.please come and visit our congregation and do here good god’s work.we > are praying for your work and their congregation.please pray for my work > and here the congregation. convey my best wishes to you and their > congregation. In christ, vijaykumar preacher > > > > On Tue, May 23, 2017 at 12:36 AM, David Skidmore comment-reply@wordpress.com> wrote: > >> David Skidmore posted: “I spent much of my life thus far avoiding >> routine. Growing up, I viewed routine as the opposite of enjoyment. The >> house I grew up in was a place of routine, and I tried to imagine my way >> out of it. Well, except for the daily times that held routine Breakf” >>

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